Last of the True Men

I believe I am one of the few ‘true’ men to be around in this world. I am not saying that I am strong, or to any point ‘butch’ but what I do best at is when I am in a relationship (in one with my girlfriend for over 8 months) I know how to treat a woman right, and the whole aspect of love. Making sure that I keep my girlfriend happy and still want to settle down with her and I am solely interested it her. E.g. I am not looking at other women (i overt my eyes) at all, because I want to keep who I consider to be my true love. Happy.

What women don’t realise is that the quite shy man, is usually the one who will respect you and treat you as you should be and if you give them a chance they will shine. This is the same for my case, I am incredibly shy and when my now girlfriend gave a interest in me (I loved her at this point) I took it and we are happy together after 8+ months. She didn’t think that I could be such a gentlemen, but I never show it because before there was little if not no reason to do to it – once you have found one of the last gentlemen, you would be mad to leave them.

What I consider to be a true gentlemen and what most women would (thank you Molly I kind of stole some of your ideas):

  • They know how to love and respect women, and especially the women they are in love with.
  • They want to try for a long relationship and to make everyone happy and loved.
  • They do want to settle down, have children and get married.
  • And they only want to ever have sex or a relationship with one person – the first person they fall inlove with – it is near impossible I think for a true gentleman to cheat – as well as not wanting sex all the time, only wanting it when it’s wanted by both parties.
  • Considers whats inside the woman first, then the features on her face such as eyes. But hardly ever spends time looking actively at parts lower down, but does give nice comments about the woman’s whole body to make her smile.
  • Even when the woman is ill and not looking her best, the man will still comment to say she looks beautiful or a princess just to make her smile in sad times.

Why am I writing this post? Well I am just saying because my girlfriend has made me the happiest person in the world and I have made her likewise; and its just a little bit of advice to some women with bad relationship troubles out there.


Ross Hetherington

Owner of this website

27 thoughts on “Last of the True Men

  1. <3

    Woo im in this post
    It is true hunny..
    you are a gentleman :)
    Very lucky to have you.
    We should try get al men to be like you i think..that way every woman would be happy =]
    hehe
    Love you
    x

  2. Sounds like you are a great guy.

    Back in my younger years (Ok, I am not as old as dirt just yet..lol but I have some long teeth and no baby ones left…hee..hee..) I ALWAYS wanted the guys who didn’t need all the atterntion (they type that kind of sat back and watched things happen instead of making them happen.) I never liked the guys who had to be out front in a group. I can honestly say that I really did date a good group of guys for the most part because of it too (at least I think that’s why..lol..)

    Great blog you have here and I am going to go read some more of it.

    Dora Renee’ Wilkerson
    http://bricoreandfamily.blogspot.com/

  3. Good for you and good for her….
    Scream your love out loud to the world.
    Thank God for men like you that embrace who you are…and don’t get stuck in what they believe they should be…
    Makes the world a better place to dream in.

  4. Even when the woman is ill and not looking her best, the man will still comment to say she looks beautiful or a princess just to make her smile in sad times.

    I need to print this out…I am recovering from surgery and it never fails that daily I am reminded that my stomach looks fat…just by a look…(he is a wonderful man!!!) but grrr sometimes men make me mad!

  5. Excellent post!

    My second husband is one of the shy, quiet types…and he treats me better than any man ever has!

  6. Yeh go Ross!!!
    :D

    Why are all men not like you…?
    I mean yo know like a certain someone we all know who only wants sex and keeps going on about it…XD
    He should be bitch slapped.

    But you get a medal!!

  7. Right on, groovy post, Mr. Man. Love is blind and so am I, but I still think my wife is the cutest ever (sigh)! I just poked her Facebook profile for the fifth time today. Just about to celebrate four years, I’m still so sickly in love–and it feels great.

  8. Ross! Wow! Impressive! You have a handle on it all right! You sound like a regular Romeo, your girlfriend must be very proud to have you. Your a rare breed these days.

  9. In a sense your right but in a sense your not. It’s not what all women want, I mean it’s nice but for me being a total cynic I can’t see that lasting and have lived through it not lasting.
    As you know Chris and me have been together for over 2 years and he isn’t like that totally. Of course he’s only intrested in me, wouldn’t treat and always looks after me when I’m ill or if I’m down.
    But he doesn’t compliment me all the time, he knows that I wont admit that firstly it bugs me and when he says it I know he means it.
    Now I’m not disagreesing with you and I do sometimes long for a perfect guy but then again, I don’t think I could find anyone more perfect for me.
    I guess what I’m attempting to say is that in my eyes the definition of a ‘true man’ is one who treats whoever he is in a relationship with (I’m open) how they want to be treated, to make it comfortable for both parties.
    I also think it should extend vice-versa, women shouldn’t be put onto a pedistal in my opinion. Woot, for feminism. (:

    But you are a very sweet boyfriend and you treat Lizzie how she wants and deserves to be treated, and you make her so happy. Good on you! (:
    *hugs*

    I think I should blog bloody well more. o_O

  10. Thank you for everyones kind words on this post :)

    I know the subject on the ideal man changes from person to person and their are variations on the perfect man… but this is what I feel one is :)

  11. I think you are right…it’s so good to have someone posting this sort of thing. Sometimes words and thoughts can be like a virus, and they spread without us knowing, perhaps others will post the same sort of thoughts, maybe a little differnet, but the same basic message. :) I think that trying to have some sense of chivalry is a wonderful thing. I am also very glad to hear that you and your lady are happy.

  12. A very nice post and your g/f is lucky. The only thing I did not agree on is the shy part. Sometimes it is the shy ones you have to watch out for. Not in your case of course.

  13. I’d say scrap the whole thing and get to know the individual woman and what’s important to her. For instance, some women might be touched by being told they were beautiful when they “weren’t at their best”, while others would view it as insincerity and begin to question the authenticity of other compliments. “Women”, in the end, are just a bunch of individual people with different likes and dislikes–we just happen to share a gender.

  14. I agree with you – as thats not what this post was about it was about the shivalry (sp) of men and how its failing these days – not how you should treat women as they each have their own wants and desires just like men.

  15. Great post Ross and lucky you!

    I think everyman yearns for such a situation, it is merely pride and silly stereotypical misconceptions that stop most men from being the perfect gentleman!

    However, there are situations where too much affection may cause your partner to take you for granted… and that can be painful!

    Well, good luck for the future and thanks for sharing!

  16. You make great points about being given a chance to prove yourself in love. So many people are seeking instant gratification in the world.

    As for love I’ve learned all I need to know about love from 1 Corinthians 13:1-7

    “If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

  17. Hey Good for you man.. I’m like that too.. just been used alot :-( have issue with trust :-(
    I hope everything works out for you..

  18. ooo and to add.. forgot to ask . have you found that your friends or her friends trying to screw you to over just by saying all kinda lies ?
    I donno what to do but I got this issue :-(

  19. Erm.. Not really. All our mates have known each other for ages really. If their trying to break you up through lies then there is a bit of jealousy I sence.

  20. Tehe
    Ever one is after my hunny.
    I am very lucky. He spoils me way to much. Sent me Roses the first valentines together even though i didn’t like valentines day =]
    Thats sweet.
    Women if you want a man go for the shy ones. They always have so much love to give. And they give great cuddles
    =]
    hehe
    Love you hunny x

  21. Good for you, but really… I know shy guys who are absolute a***holes and outgoing guys who absolutely adore their wives. You can’t make these kind of unfounded generalisations about men.

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